Addressing the issue of the over active ego in one of my readers.
This is going to be a bit of an open response to a message I received on MySpace. As the message was not open I cannot provide absolute proof of it’s existence, but I know that you’ll trust me.
“i’ve got a question to ask you about that have you ever been laid? with a woman? you big gay twat” Wilmur
I will not release my full attention or energy in response, but I do feel it necessary to address this and such similar attacks. This has not been the only of such, I believe the homophobic community must be passing this around or maybe linking to it within their weekly newsletter.
Before I address any issues raised in or by this correspondence it does strike me that the sender must either have not read my blog, or been heavily under the influence of some mind numbing drug at the time. The entire blog was not about the act of sexual intercourse, foreplay, or anything pertaining to such actions; it was about the use of sexual attraction and visual/verbal sexual manipulation within advertisements and popular culture. For those of you who’d like to totally dismiss this as nonsensical, I’d prefer to address this form of address before it becomes too commonplace within my new mail. I am also amused to find that sexuality is brought into this, did the author read more than the title before realising it as a way to display his own insecurities on a public medium? This I expect will remain a secret.
I will not address the issue of the correspondent’s sexuality, if they’re a latent homosexual and this is the way they chose to show it then that is entirely their business and not mine to pry into. I will not address their interesting grammar, nor the lack of capitalisation but simply presume they’ve broken their shift key and were in great hurry for their life.
Maybe it is that they don’t understand my post, maybe they cant comprehend the meaning of ’sexing’ or how things can be sold using a sexual image. Surely this cannot be so, they had a public school (that’s paid for those outside the UK) education of a genuinely good quality. I would not be surprised if they got higher marks than yours truly, my English skills have always been lacking. Surely they must have been able to understand the simple concept of sex in advertising.
The correspondent asks me if I’ve ever had sex with someone. I must remind them that this is none of their business, apart from being totally irrelevant to the post. They then go on to ask if, if the first question was answered yes, it was a member of the fair sex. They then accuse me of being gay and a `twat`. Gay I take to mean homosexual, and `twat` to mean fool; the other alternative is unlikely even in the context of the absurdity of the post, it being a happy vulva. I’ll let my friends judge me on my foolishness, but I’m most definitely heterosexual. Even if I were, what would be the problem, would there even be any change to the validity of my points of view? This strikes me as the stereotypical accusation of a young man being ‘gay’ because he cries at his wedding, his wedding to a woman, rather petty.
In conclusion I find this attack rather laughable. It’s badly worded and badly punctuated, it’s lacking in substance, it totally lacks factual backing or grounding for the accusations. It is unfortunate that I’ve received a few other similar emails or messages, it’s sad that even in this day of ‘freedom’ and ‘equality’ a man cannot stand up for what he believes to be right, and stand against something he believes to be another’s disgrace without attracting insults. Of course, it has to be the age old accusation of homosexuality.
How pathetic.
Kind regards, Robert.
Tags: Advertising, Rant, Society, Stupidity
October 30th, 2007 at 2:11 am
I completely agree with Robert here. I don’t think there is anything necessarily “gay” or “twatish” about finding sexual manipulation in tv ads etc. One thing it actually does imply is that he has a certain respect for himself and for women, since women are mostly the ones being used as bait in the ads. Personally I choose not to watch commercials any more and use DVR like its going out of style because commericals and advertisements have become so completely ridiculous and oversexed it is pathetic. Can’t the media come up with a more original way of selling their products?
October 30th, 2007 at 2:34 am
wow you go Robbie tell this rude bastard how it is
October 30th, 2007 at 2:34 am
good point, i totally agree
October 30th, 2007 at 2:53 am
I don’t think there is anything necessarily “gay” or “twatish” about finding sexual manipulation in tv ads etc.
* disgusting and overused
October 30th, 2007 at 1:49 pm
What a wanker!
I think Robert completely pwned “Wilmur”, and I totally support the insecurities comment - it’s obvious the guy has a total self-concious attitude problem.
This made me giggle, the fact that Robert politely took the piss out of him, yet completely owned him at the same time, whilst maintaining his dignity and pride and not doing as I would and just flaming him, inducing a reply from him and possibly having him flooding me with mail about how homosexual I am and how Heterosexually perfect he may be.
It seems his philosophy relies on how many vagina’s he’s inserted his sexual mannerisms into, rather than how many girls actually remember him after 2 years and can still say he’s a nice guy.
-Ryan x
November 1st, 2007 at 3:13 pm
People are so inert to change, it’s strange. It may have been acceptable to use gay as an insult a few years ago but not it’s definitely off the cards. I’m surprised none of my gay friends have pointed this out.
What’s more worrying is that the so called alpha male characteristically feels it’s wrong to stray from a certain view of women and how they can/should be viewed and attacks anyone who does. I would not attempt, or even want to, categorise myself but I hope I do not fall into that pit.
Kind regards, Robert.
April 5th, 2008 at 5:11 pm
To Anonymous or ‘88.110.255.151′
Quoth yourself: gay
I’m not, but I’m glad to see that you’ve outgrown rather lame semi-insulting phrases.
Quoth yourself: i heard u bummed urself
That’s interesting, I didn’t. Out of interest had you come across an interesting book called a ‘Dictionary’, in it you’ll discover that the correct spelling of ‘you’ is such, and ‘urself’ is actually ‘yourself’. I’m sure this will be most enlightening and I do hope I’ve helped you in your burgeoning grasp of the English language! Soon you’ll be able to spell almost as well as my Dutch, German, French, or Italian friends.
Oh, by the way, I didn’t know it was possible for the human body to perform such acrobatics as to ‘bum’ oneself. I will put this out there to my homosexual friends, maybe one of them can tell me as I don’t have any experience on that side of the fence.
My kindest regards, Robert.
* PS: I didn’t allow your comments through as it seems you don’t have the courage to write your own name or the sense to spell the word ‘you’
April 5th, 2008 at 5:15 pm
Side note:
It seems that ‘Wilmur’ has decided that the best way to regain the respect of the readers here is to post slurrying comments on my ‘MySpace’ page.
Quoth ‘Wilmur’: i rejected your dad.
I somehow doubt this. I get a strange feeling you might be making up petty insults to get at me. Of course I must be wrong, after all you’re all grown up and mature now; aren’t you?
Kind regards, Robert.
April 5th, 2008 at 5:58 pm
Rob, sometimes you are one of the funniest people I know, you completely buried this “Wilmur” character, and left him for the maggots to aid the decomposition of his rotting incompetent corpse.
He really should think before taking on the master
I don’t think we’ll be seeing much more of Wilmur anytime soon, at least.
August 21st, 2008 at 11:46 pm
Not to overshadow all your wonderful remarks Rob but let me try and get something straight.. Pardon the pun.
This guy:
http://b1.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/00739/11/01/739271011_l.jpg
implied you were gay because of a blog post regarding the concept that sex sells? Wilmur appears to be the actualized definition of an internet troll. We should further study this rare species of troll and gain further insight into it’s daily life and habits.